How Basketball Coaches Can Manage Parents
Administration, parents and sociocultural expectations all have an influential role on how we end up coaching our players each and every day.
Having different philosophical beliefs around pedagogy can constrain your impact and downright confuse the players. For example, one coach in your program doing drills and motion offense vs another using a CLA and conceptual offense. Many programs send mixed messages to their players from what should ideally be a unified front of coaches, administrators, parents and working to the same vision and ideas.
Mixed Messages: Why Unified Philosophies Matter
This issue was brought up in our Transforming Membership Community, where one of our members was looking for healthy ways to engage with pushback from those around them. The following is an example of a message they received in a group chat after a 3rd grade girls game.
One of the greatest benefits of the membership is coaches getting all their questions answered. Here are some of the wonderful responses received from our community members, including Alex himself! These provide a great solution for replying to parents, as opposed to coming across as dismissive or confrontational.
Alex’s Proactive Strategy: Parent Education Sessions
This response from Alex is a great way to be proactive as a coach. Before the season even starts, we recommend running a 20 minute educational presentation for parents on what an evidence-based approach is. This can then help mitigate issues coming up before they even arise!
Building a Unified Vision for Long-Term Success
Ultimately, players, parents, coaches, and administrators all want the same thing: to help athletes grow and enjoy the game. Aligning your philosophy with a clear, evidence-based vision ensures consistency across the program and avoids mixed messages.
When everyone is on the same page, the players benefit most — and that’s what coaching is all about.
What ideas do you have for effectively managing parents new to these ideas?
Administration, parents and sociocultural expectations all have an influential role on how we end up coaching our players each and every day.
Having different philosophical beliefs around pedagogy can constrain your impact and downright confuse the players. For example, one coach in your program doing drills and motion offense vs another using a CLA and conceptual offense. Many programs send mixed messages to their players from what should ideally be a unified front of coaches, administrators, parents and working to the same vision and ideas.
Mixed Messages: Why Unified Philosophies Matter
This issue was brought up in our Transforming Membership Community, where one of our members was looking for healthy ways to engage with pushback from those around them. The following is an example of a message they received in a group chat after a 3rd grade girls game.
One of the greatest benefits of the membership is coaches getting all their questions answered. Here are some of the wonderful responses received from our community members, including Alex himself! These provide a great solution for replying to parents, as opposed to coming across as dismissive or confrontational.
Alex’s Proactive Strategy: Parent Education Sessions
This response from Alex is a great way to be proactive as a coach. Before the season even starts, we recommend running a 20 minute educational presentation for parents on what an evidence-based approach is. This can then help mitigate issues coming up before they even arise!
Building a Unified Vision for Long-Term Success
Ultimately, players, parents, coaches, and administrators all want the same thing: to help athletes grow and enjoy the game. Aligning your philosophy with a clear, evidence-based vision ensures consistency across the program and avoids mixed messages.
When everyone is on the same page, the players benefit most — and that’s what coaching is all about.
What ideas do you have for effectively managing parents new to these ideas?
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